How to Find Your Partners G Spot
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The fabled G-spot. For some women, it’s a pleasurable reality. For others, it’s like leprechauns, unicorns and $20 Jimmy Choos — it doesn’t exist. Most women are pleased with a regular orgasm. But is there something that’s even better?
The physical truth: There’s a mass of spongy tissue that surrounds the urethra, called the urethral sponge. And like other parts of the body, the tissue is full of blood vessels and nerve endings.
Doctors and researchers agree that the sponge exists, but they disagree about whether it’s an epicenter of an orgasmic earthquake.
“We know something is there — way too many women have had pleasure by stimulating… that area of the vagina,” says Amy Levine, certified sexual educator and founder of SexedSolutions.com. “We also know some women ejaculate when there’s pressure applied to the same area.”
Anatomy of a G-Spot
The G-spot isn’t a newfangled discovery. It was first noted in the 1940s by German gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg (hence the “G”). The “magic button” became popular in 1982 with the publication of sex researcher Beverly Whipple’s best-selling book The G Spot: And Other Discoveries about Human Sexuality (Holt Paperbacks).
Decades of debate followed: Is the G-spot myth or science? Does every woman have one? Is it the key to the ultimate orgasm?
Every woman’s vulva and vagina is not the same, and bundles of highly sensitive nerve endings may be in different places. Which may explain why some respond well to a certain technique or position and others don’t.
In fact, the G-spot may be less of a spot and more of a zone that’s hard to pinpoint from one woman to the next, explaining why evidence has been hard to come by.
To Have or Have Not
But a study by researchers at Italy’s University of L’Aquila claims to have found physiological proof of a G-spot.
Using vaginal ultrasounds, the researchers found thicker tissue between the vagina and the urethra — where the G-spot is thought to reside — in women who reported having vaginal orgasms, but not in women who reported having clitoral orgasms.
Lead researcher Emmanuele Jannini, M.D., concluded that some women have a G-spot and others don’t.
But Levine says the study isn’t evidence of anything. It tested only 20 women, “an extremely small sample size,” she says. “And 20 women aren’t necessarily representative of all women.”
Plus, there’s also no way of knowing what came first, the G-spot or the vaginal orgasm, Levine says.
“It could be that women with thicker tissue suggestive of a G-spot have had more experience stimulating the area.”
Better Orgasms… Maybe
So why the fuss? Supposedly, a G-spot orgasm is the end-all, be-all of pleasure… which makes it all the more tantalizing.
In The Guide to Getting It On (Goofy Foot Press), sex researcher Paul Joannides writes that feelings in the clitoris get to the brain via the pudendal nerve, and vaginal sensations (including the G-spot) are sent to the brain through the pelvic nerve.
Because of this, stimulating both spots may lead to a more intense or “full” orgasm.
Levine agrees. Because the clitoris and the G-spot are different erogenous zones, “stimulating both is going to make for a more powerful orgasm for many women,” she says.